Senior living for families
Worried about Mom or Dad?
Noticing changes in a parent can leave you unsure where to start. These steps can help you understand what is happening, talk together and explore support, one question at a time.
Where to start
Six steps, one at a time
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1. Write down what you notice Note specific changes and when they started, such as missed bills, weight loss, a fall or getting lost. It helps you and their doctor see the pattern.
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2. Talk with their doctor Some changes have treatable causes, like an infection, a medication side effect or hearing loss. A checkup is the right first step.
- 3. Take the self-check Seven questions about daily life point to the kind of support that may fit, with no form to fill out. Take the self-check
- 4. Learn the options See how independent living, assisted living and memory care differ, and when each one fits. Compare the options
- 5. Take a break if you need one If you are the one providing care, a short respite stay can give you time to rest and think clearly. How respite works
- 6. Visit a community together Seeing a place in person, over a meal or an activity, often answers more than any brochure. Find a community
Starting the conversation
- Pick a calm moment, not right after a fall or a scare.
- Start with what you've noticed and how you feel: "I've been worried since..." goes further than "You need to move."
- Ask what matters most to them, and what they're worried about too.
- Expect more than one conversation. It is a process, not a single talk.
- Bring in someone they trust, such as a doctor, a sibling or a friend, if it helps.
If memory changes are part of the picture, our guide on when it may be time for memory care covers talking with a parent who is living with dementia.
Questions
Common questions from worried families
How do I know if it is time for help?
There is rarely one moment. Families usually notice several changes together, such as trouble keeping up with the house, missed medications, falls, weight loss or more time alone. The self-check and a visit with their doctor are good places to start.
What if my parent says no?
That is common. Keep the conversation open, focus on what matters to them, and start small, such as a visit for lunch. Many people feel differently once they see a place in person.
Do I have to decide right away?
No. Learning the options early means you can make a choice together, rather than in a hurry after a fall or a hospital stay.
Come see it for yourself.
Choose the kind of visit that suits you. No pressure, no commitment.
- In-person tourMeet the team, explore the community and see a residence during your visit.
- Virtual tourA live video walk-through for family who live out of town.
- Come for lunchJoin us for lunch, meet a few neighbors and get a feel for daily life.
What to expect: Plan for 30 to 60 minutes to meet the team, see the community and ask questions. Allow more time if you join us for a meal.
Schedule a tour
Pick a day and time that works for you, and the community team will confirm it.
Prefer to talk first? Call the community directly.
- Tarina of KingwoodKingwood, TX(281) 767-2454
- The Terraces at KingwoodKingwood, TX(281) 519-3876
- Tarina of CypresswoodSpring, TX(281) 789-1946
- Barton HouseScottsdale, AZ(480) 719-0268
- Tarina of StocktonStockton, CA(209) 353-8015
- Novellus ClairemontSan Diego, CA(858) 225-2313